Avoid Mistakes, Avoid Growth

Sometimes we get stuck in worry, fixating on making the right choice or doubting our capabilities, which can paralyze us from deciding. It’s important to feel these emotions, allowing them to inform but not control our responses. Our minds can make past events feel current and future possibilities overwhelming. When anxiety arises, try having a compassionate dialogue with yourself. Imagine your worried self as a child: “I see you’re worried, and that’s okay. Right now, it’s not happening. I’m here to keep you safe and I love you. What do you need to feel safe?”

Pause to listen, then envision how you want to feel and what resources you need to cultivate that feeling.